Lately, I’ve felt the weight of despair in being single as someone called to encourage singles. After praying, hoping and trying to meet someone who shares my faith, I started to wonder if love just wasn’t in the cards for me. Then God reminded me, through my Mum, that: His promises are already done. I don’t have to strive to make them happen — I just need to trust the One who spoke them.
Pain of Waiting in Dating
Honestly, there is a big difference between exhaustion and waiting. I know the feeling, many of us start dating journeys full of hope, excitement, and faith but overtime, the disappointment sets in. Maybe, like me, you have deleted dating apps more times than you care to count? You’re tired of mixed signals, ghosting, emotional bread-crumbing or meeting people who don’t share your spiritual depth or at the end fail to choose you. It’s okay to admit it hurts — even deeply. God isn’t scared by your honesty. Actually, He invites it.
Key idea: Acknowledge the emotional tax of waiting without shame — honesty is part of healing.
God’s Promise Fulfilled, NOT Pending
The biggest lie we face during a season of waiting on God’s promises is “it will never happen for me” or “I’m not good enough”. I am sorry if you feel this way. The Truth is God has already done it. What do you mean? We don’t wait for God to move — We wait for His perfect timing to reveal what He’s already finished. Biblical scholars and Theologians agree that 400+ scriptures exist in the Bible confirming His beautiful promises over our life. All we have to do is believe it and receive it.
Key idea: Shift from trying to trust; the promises God has already secured in His plans for you.
How To Choose Hope Again
Hoping isn’t pretending everything’s fine. It’s choosing to acknowledge a problem or struggle and believing in God’s goodness even when nothing looks different.
Sure! You might still be single next month — by you won’t be the same person. Because every time you choose to trust instead of despair, you become more aligned and hopeful with the person God’s preparing you to be. Hoping is faith in motion. I believe this is what Hebrews 4:3; “And yet his works have been finished since the creation of the world.“
Key idea: Faith-filled perseverance transforms despair into growth and peace.
Key takeaways
I know you are tired, but God is not finished. And His promises aren’t delayed and never fail — they’re developing. Keep walking, keep trusting, don’t give up and let hope rise again!
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