Loneliness has a way of sneaking up on you, even in a crowded church service. But your desire for intimate connection is not in itself a bad thing. You love God, serve faithfully, and trust His timing —but sometimes, it feels like you’re doing everything alone. I’m here to remind you, God is right here with you in that place.
Am I Missing Out On Love
If you feel lonely or like you missed out on love? You are not alone and this is an experience we all go through, myself included. When Autumn rolls in, it signifies the ending of a year and that can lead to feeling deep emotions of loss and hope.
As God’s children, we are made for fellowship and companionship Hebrews 10:24 shares the importance of spurring each other on “toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together.” Truth is you have a God who chose you and loved you first, and because of that love we are presented with an opportunity to be thankful for many good things God blessed each of us with this year!
Key focus: Press into God during times of loneliness and explore ways of finding community, either in person or online. You are created for fellowship and community. Don’t give up! Even if you have tried before.
What If Loneliness Wasn’t Punishment?
What if loneliness was an invitation—to go deeper with God, authentic community, and a healthier understanding of His love for you. As Christian singles, you may feel as though everyone else is moving forward while you’re still waiting. But what if this reason becomes the most fulfilling in your life?
- The enemy can use focus on self to create isolation and trap us there.
- Time in quietness with Gods leads to greater freedom.
WILD right? How can one state of being lead to pain or promise? When we spend time in the presence of God, we tap into His power. When we visit a close friend or family member we care about, a similar sense of belonging can be felt.
Scientific research from Duke Today shows that Joy, Love and Peace can behave as natural healing remedies. When we spend time with God or loved ones, the human body releases chemicals called:
- Dopamine – Joy reward chemical
- Oxytocin – Love and bonding hormone
- Serotonin – Peace and contentment neurotransmitter
- Endorphins – a natural painkiller
Truth is, not being in communication with God is like skipping out on healing or not eating. After a long period of time, it brings us harm and potentially creates unhelpful lifestyle habits.
These chemicals are also felt in the Five Stages of Dating — Which share about in this article and also in Salt Table Talks live every Friday at 8PM UK time.
How To Move Forward, Hopeful?
I used to think being single meant that there was a problem with me. All the weddings invitations I didn’t receive, every photo of a happy coupe on social media, seem to amplify what I was lacking — which made my heart ache grow deeper. As time has gone on! God has filled me with His grace and teaching me how to be closer to Him in loneliness and patient in love. (1 Corinthians 13)
But over time, God has renewed and filled me with His grace. He’s been teaching me how to draw closer to Him in seasons of loneliness and to grow patient in love (1 Corinthians 13).
Being in a relationship doesn’t define your worth or identity. Singleness can be an opportunity — a sacred space to give thanks, cultivate new growth, and discover the wonder of all that God has made for you to experience. Whether it’s serving in your local church, encouraging a friend, or travelling to see the beauty of His creation, this season has purpose.
Your life isn’t defined by your relationship status. It’s defined by how you reflect Christ’s love — sharing the gospel not just in words, but through the way you live each day.
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